today which is Saturday, I return to the subject of the questions. Some time ago I mentioned my point of view on the “good” that is always ask why of something (or ask oneself why). And as the questions are often the starting point for many projects, today I play another sensitive issue: the captious questions.
An elegant way to start the post would be:
The Real Academia Española defines tricky as:
1. adj. said of a Word, a doctrine, a proposition, etc.: fallacious (embusteras, false ‖).
But as my posts are far from elegant, I’m going to tie me up to the 2nd option and say that such questions tend to be questions with trap. For example:
Yesterday we celebrated a birthday with my wife and today while looking for a subtle way that make me lunch told him that she was the most beautiful MOM of the meets. At that time, he dropped me a boomerang that left me ice cream:
- -That what you say because I want to, or because it was the most beautiful?
My 8 years of married blew me spiderman-style danger alert, because the 2 answers have trap.
- -If you told her that I love her very much, said me then was not the prettiest which whom I was more watching, etc…
- -If I tell you that it was the most beautiful, takes me the subject that I don’t love her, that I abandoned, etc…
In both cases term buying an expensive gift for the hard time and in the worst cases sleeping in the attic. And all for a simple question…
Once more the power of a well-built question is something that we do not usually assess. The case where most applied in our profession, is when we forward our have a functional person who contributes from the functional point of view information to a project.
As we tend not to “speak the same language” is very important to learn how to carry a conversation that will allow us to balance the message between the 2 parties. There are many techniques for this; for example the active listening, and others that probably deserve a blog of Sociology not in one technician.
Turning to the questions with trap, an example of them is as follows:
Many times I have participated in conversations where a 5 minutes of talking with a client, I hear the phrase “then we set up a website for this?“, when even we didn’t clear that or we had not yet decrypted a customer’s real need. In this case we are predisposing to our client with a factor that he doesn’t have to import him: implementing the solution … but of course, took it in the veins.
My recommendation is to learn to listen, and not only in the traditional way. Points 30 minutes per week to read more than just notes of technology… a change of scenery always helps us improve professionally.
PD1: another option is to have children, the children’s opens us head in an impressive manner. If you want to avoid disorder get girlfriend, wait 9 months, etc. I lend you mine all weekend!
PD2: I bought the expensive gift
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